- Seminar for Professional and Laypeople.
- Audio from seminar recorded and produced in July 2019, live presentation.
- The PowerPoint presentation is included, in PDF format.
Preparing for The Narcissistic Storm: Stage 4
Stage 4 of the Ten Stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program empowers, educates, and guides embattled and often gaslit SLDs (codependents), so they can effectively set and keep boundaries while disengaging or terminating relationships with narcissists. In this seminar, you will learn about the manipulative strategies that narcissists use to easily render their victim-partners powerless. Power and control and manipulative strategies used to entrap and weaken SLD (codependent) victims will be discussed.
You will learn about how a person’s Self-Love Deficit Disorder/SLDD (codependency) and narcissism interact, how to neutralize narcissist’s engagement strategies, and the mechanics and consequences of placing boundaries on narcissists. Mastering this stage is analogous to becoming skilled at a “psychological chess game.” Predicting a narcissist’s “moves” helps the SLD (codependent) escape narcissistic abuse.
The Observe, Don’t Absorb (ODA) Technique will be taught. Mastery of ODA enables SLDs (codependents) to safely emotionally disconnect from the toxic “wrestling match” that the narcissist will do almost anything to keep them engaged in.
Some of the material presented:
- Developing “Predictive Awareness”
- False Power Syndrome
- Induced Conversation
- Worst-Case Scenario Exercise
- Cost-Benefit Exercise
- Secretly building resources
- Dismantling triangulation
- Avoiding narcissistic injuries
- Grey Rock Technique doesn’t work
- Gaslighting and Stockholm Syndrome
- The dangers of marriage/couples counseling and mediation
Setting Boundaries in a Hostile Environment: Stage 5
This is the stage when the “stuff hits the fan,” during which the prepared SLD (codependent) moves confidently forward in their plan to escape narcissistic abuse. The SLD (codependent) is now prepared and appropriately frightened and nervous with their well-studied and rehearsed plan to set boundaries with people, who by definition, are going to resist and fight back with every bit of their dysfunctional abilities.
This stage begins with Rosenberg’s “Surgeon General’s Warning,” which prepares SLDs (codependents) for the pathological narcissist’s angry and retaliatory reactions to their newfound boundary-setting abilities, the potential for consequences and harm, while accurately predicting the wholescale loss of friends, loved ones, and family members.
One boundary at a time, the SLD (codependent) begins to insulate and protect themselves, while for the first time, getting a taste of self-love, self-respect, and hope. SLDD (codependency) addiction and relapse risks are discussed.
Stage 5 leaves few-to-no pathological narcissists “standing,” except those to whom the SLD (codependent) has little choice but to remain connected—such as an elderly parent or a husband who controls the finances and/or children. The carefully executed uncoupling of the codependent-narcissist relationship, and the implementation of boundaries and safety measures, ensures the completion of this stage and the reaching of the next.
Some of the material presented:
- Ross’s “Surgeon General” warning
- The Three Strike Boundary Rule
- Setting boundaries in a hostile environment
- Boundaries for narcissists do not work
- Preparing for Retaliation
- Roller Coaster Amnesia
- Breaking the secrecy rule
- The “Humanizing” trick
- Hoovering and its various “masks”