Self-Love Recovery Institute/Ross Rosenberg's Blog

  • What Happens When You Break Up With a Narcissist

    Most narcissists who are facing “the boot” will do almost anything to stall or buy time. They try to regain a foothold on the codependent’s demonstration of power, control and resolve. Any last-ditch efforts or promises to change or stop may be genuine but are impossible and do not elicit permanent results. This is because pathological narcissists lack the psychological resources, ability, and insight to stay focused on what is wrong with themselves
  • Hiring an Expert Witness or Testimony Consultant: Essential Information

    Psychotherapists and other mental health practitioners are frequently called upon as expert witnesses in disputes involving emotional distress/trauma, mental illness, child custody disputes, and other disputed mental health-related phenomena. In such cases, their ability to provide persuasive and credible information/testimony to a judge and/or jury often determines the success of a specific legal proceeding.
  • Do Narcissists Cry?

    by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Self-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEO Psychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness To answer...
  • The Positive Nature of Negative Feelings

    Just because “positive” feelings feel good does not necessarily mean that the “negative” feelings are not good for us. Although negative feelings create negative emotional states, they are essential to the positive mental health of all people. Human beings are biologically designed to experience a complete range of all possible feelings (emotions). We are born as a “blank slate” with the potential to develop a full array of emotional abilities. Through environmental, cultural, societal, and familial conditioning, we learn about our feelings, which are and are not valued, and the rules to manage them.
  • Seeing and Understanding the Invisible: Codependency "Telescope"

    Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., CADC.Self-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness With each ...
  • Building Your Dream Home - The Importance of Self-Love

    Many of us have lived in or currently live in a metaphorically dilapidated and dangerous home that fools us into believing it protects us from the risk of harm and danger. As much as we may want to blame another person for “building the home”, making us stay inside it, or inoculating us with fear for wanting to move out of it, we must face the fact that we are also responsible. Since we are not chained inside of the house, the captor needs the captured to believe they belong in such a house. Believe it or not, the locks on the outside doors were installed by both partners.  The challenge is to realize that you always carry the keys for the deadbolt locks and the password for the security alarms. 
  • Narcissists Need to Have Children: The Good Parent Narrative

    Like everything else in their lives, pathological narcissists need to be parents so they can feel good/better about themselves. Despite their public proclamations, everything is always about themselves, and never the child. Having a child allows them to fictionally repackage their life in which their buried core shame is replaced with candy-coated feel-good illusions.
  • Codependency: Don't Dance!

    The inherently dysfunctional “codependency dance” requires two opposite but balanced partners: a pleasing, giving codependent and the needy controlling narcissist. Like a champion dance partnership, the dancing roles are perfectly matched: the leader needs the follower and vice versa. Or, in other words, the giver-taker dance role combination enables the two to dance effortlessly and flawlessly.
  • Codependent Parental Neglect

    The aim of this article is to neither shame nor blame codependent parents who participate in their family's dysfunction but rather to provide codependency recovery-specific information as well as to open up a discourse on an otherwise taboo subject.

    The codependent abnegation of responsibility to protect their children should never be reduced to a simple "good or bad" proposition. It is simply too complicated to cast a one-dimensional blame net. However, because we live in a society that holds adults responsible for their actions, it is vitally important to understand the consequences and losses that result from Codependent Parental Neglect, even if the person causing the harm is also the victim.

  • Taking the Joke Out of Codependency

    Codependency is a pathological mental health condition that manifests in individuals (codependents) who are predictably and reflexively attracted to harmful, selfish, and self-absorbed Pathological Narcissists. The powerful and difficult to resist opposite attraction dynamic illustrated in my "Human Magnet Syndrome" books account for the instant explosion of euphoric "chemistry" between "caregiving" codependents and "care-taking" Pathological Narcissists. Codependency is not just limited to romantic couplings, as it manifests itself in varying degrees in most other significant relationships.
  • It Is Never Too Late Too Be The Person You Should Have Been (A Poem)

    Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness Go to t...
  • Guilt Management – A Path to Better Codependency Recovery

    Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness As a ps...