The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique (ODA): Neutralizing Narcissistic Abuse (90 Minutes)

The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique (ODA): Neutralizing Narcissistic Abuse (90 Minutes)

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  • 1.5 Hours Seminar for Professional and Laypeople.
  • The PowerPoint presentation is included, in PDF format.

Ross Rosenberg’s credits the discovery of the “Observe Don’t Absorb (ODA)” technique for saving his mental health while in abusive relationships with Pathological Narcissists. ODA empowers and assists victims of narcissistic abuse, codependents, or those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder with a variety of insights, strategies, and survival tools.

ODA essentially enables people to successfully set boundaries with Pathological Narcissists (Narcissistic, Borderline and/or Antisocial Personality Disorders), survive the backlash, and safely end their harmful and dysfunctional relationship. The main tenant of ODA is to avoid the forever losing proposition of engaging narcissists in conflict.

Ross uses George Bernard Shaw’s saying, “Never wrestle with pigs. You will get dirty; and besides, pigs like it,” to demonstrate the futility of “wrestling” with narcissists, and the forever poor outcomes because of it.  Not only does ODA teach emotional detachment from purposefully manipulative and cunning narcissists, it greatly enhances one’s mental health. It can be used as an effective every-day technique that has the potential be helpful in all situations - from the mundane to the very stressful and critical.


  1. False Power Syndrome
  2. Roller Coaster Amnesia
  3. The Codependency Delusion
  4. Magical Thinking
  5. The 4 Reasons Boundaries on Pnarc’s Don’t Work
  6. Establishing Homefield Advantage
  7. Observe Don’t Absorb Technique: Stop Wrestling with Pigs
  8. ODA’s 6 Tenets
  9. Predictive Awareness
  10. ODA In the Head – The Emotional Wrestling Ring
  11. The Emotional and Physical Wrestling Rings
  12. Muhammad Ali’s Emotional Knockouts
  13. The Induced Conversation
  14. Using ODA – The Technique
  15. Observing is Healthy Disassociation
  16. Don’t Absorb! and What It Is
  17. ODA Mindfulness
  18. The Nine ODA Fantasy Defense Techniques
  19. The Intern Fantasy Defense Technique
  20. The Syringe Fantasy Defense Technique
  21. Mr. Spock Fantasy Defense Technique
  22. Name Rank and Serial Number Technique
  23. ODA Mantras
  24. Becoming an ODA Warrior
  25. Conclusion

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Deborah on 01/05/2017
I have read the 'The Human Magnet Syndrome 2 yrs. ago Observe don't absorb technique works. However old habits do die hard. Recovery is ongoing, I'm glad to be a Co-dependent in ways, because we do truly heal. Narcs there's almost no hope for them. Very sad.