Self-Love Recovery Institute/Ross Rosenberg's Blog
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THE “OF COURSE METHOD"—A Crucial Defensive Technique that Neutralizes Narcissistic Abuse
Setting boundaries is an important part of all relationships. It becomes even more important—and potentially life-saving—when you are interacting ... -
CODEPENDENCY WAS NEVER THE PROBLEM!
This article will explore the relationship between codependency, attachment trauma, and pathological loneliness and the role that psychotherapy can have to solve this pathological circle. Perhaps not everyone knows that it is possible to think of codependency as a secondary condition, a symptom of profound mental health issues: it is not the problem we are dealing with, but a problem caused by much deeper issues. -
A POEM: CODEPENDENT LOVE
Men and women always have been drawn into romantic relationships instinctively, not so much by what they see, feel or think, but more by an invisible and irresistible relationship force. Ross Rosenberg, a seasoned psychotherapist, professional trainer, and recovering codependent, calls this compelling and seductive “love force” the Human Magnet Syndrome. “Chemistry,” or the intuitive knowingness of perfect compatibility, is synonymous with the Human Magnet Syndrome. This is the attraction force that brings compatibly opposite, but exquisitely matched, lovers together: codependents and narcissists. -
ROSENBERG'S SELF-LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER/SLDD. "CODEPENDENCY" NO MORE.
“Codependency” is an outdated term that connotes weakness and emotional fragility, both of which are far from the truth. The replacement term, “Self-Love Deficit Disorder” or SLDD, takes the stigma and misunderstanding out of codependency and focuses on the core shame that perpetuates it. However, inherent in the term itself is recognizing the core problem of codependency and its solution. -
CODEPENDENCY ANOREXIA—ARE YOU STARVING YOURSELF FROM LOVE?
Codependency Anorexia occurs when a codependent surrenders to their life-long relationship pattern to destructive pathological narcissists. I define codependency as an individual psychopathology that manifests within relationships. The codependent habitually finds themselves in relationships with pathological narcissists, with whom they give the lion’s share of love, respect and care (LRC), while being denied the same. Although they are consistently on the short end of the receiving stick, they stay in the relationship because they are both afraid of being alone and believe that if given enough time, they will be able to change or control the narcissist’s selfishness and entitlement. -
"EMPATHS" ARE THE SAME AS "CODEPENDENTS"
I have to be honest, I do not like when the term “empath” is used interchangeably with “codependent.” “Empath,” which has its origins in the spiritual and metaphysical world, was never intended to be a replacement term for codependency. An empath is defined as a person with the paranormal ability to intuitively sense and understand the mental or emotional state of another individual... -
POEM: ON BECOMING A ROSE: THE JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE
Breaking through to self-love
is the most difficult journey
for paralyzed and anxious
rose bud people,
whose roots are deeply
and inescapably implanted
in the inhospitable soil
of forgotten and discarded dreams. -
THE CRUSHING DOUBLE BIND
I define the Crushing Double Bind as a strategic and systematic campaign to render the methodically weakened SLD helpless, by making them feel powerless and trapped. This Catch-22-like strategy teaches SLDs that any attempt to stop or escape their narcissist causes worse harm than staying put. -
OBSERVE DON'T ABSORB TECHNIQUE
Ross Rosenberg's Observe Don’t Absorb Technique (ODA) provides a person who is manipulated and/or harmed by an individual who derives power and control through the use of emotional domination, capacity to set successful boundaries with Pathological Narcissists. -
A CODEPENDENT CANNOT BE A NARCISSIST
Ross is frequently asked the question, "can a person be a codependent and narcissist at the same time." Codependents ask this question because of their distorted sense of self and personal boundaries.
