Taking on the Codependency Establishment

Taking on the Codependency Establishment

Taking on the "Codependency Establishment”

Excerpt from Upcoming
“The Codependency Revolution”
Released with workbook on November 1, 2023

Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC
Self-Love Recovery Institute — President/CEO
PsychotherapistEducatorAuthorExpert Witness

Fortunately for science, the process of pairing creativity with skepticism promotes new discoveries while discarding outdated misconceptions. That knowledge-bearing tension seems to fall short in stimulating the mental health community’s examination of codependency.

Metaphorically, codependency lives a chameleon’s life. What people believe or experience reveals more about the environmental background (culture, society, etc.) than the actual problem from which they suffer. Despite the numerous, innovative contributions by many, codependency still fails to be understood. 

Understanding codependency’s convoluted history and the chronic lack of success in treatment illustrates the uphill road of discoveries I have been enthusiastically traveling on. Considering historical information, the term, problem, and treatment for codependency should be gutted. 

How the world defines codependency is simply incorrect, excessively simplistic, stigmatizing, and embarrassing. The lack of credibility in professional circles unintentionally enables the absence of valid and reliable resources for the problem. Most disturbing is the one-dimensional understanding of a problem that mistakes the symptoms as the cause. To that end, codependency has never been viewed as habits, behaviors, and relationship patterns. Instead, such are symptoms of more profound trauma, shame, loneliness, and relationship addiction issues that, in totality, are codependency. 

To illustrate this problem, imagine the fate of a person with a rapidly spreading bacterial infection whose physician mistook the observable symptoms for the actual foundational cause. The line of intervention would be to clean and bandage the wound, then send the person home with antibiotics. But what if the onset of the potentially fatal infection was overlooked, and a person who could have been successfully treated, died? Such a hypothetical tragedy illustrates the lives of hundreds of thousands of codependents. Perhaps you may now better understand the passion that has gone into writing this book.

Aside from the mental health field mistaking codependency for its symptoms, no one has yet to identify and explain the undeniable attraction to pathological narcissists pattern and relationship-preference troubles. Considering the lack of established and valid explanations for the codependent’s chronic pathological attraction patterns, the inability to escape harmful relationship partners, and the propensity to repeat the pattern with subsequent partners, it appears the mental health field has its back turned. Such a system-wide failure by the well-meaning but mostly uninformed professional field is disappointing, saddening, and frightening.

Without intuitively sensible and psychologically valid explanations for why codependents almost always fall in love with pathological narcissists and, consequently, are subsumed by a mountain of suffering, any attempt to resolve the problem will most likely continue to fail. But don’t mistake my various position as purely academic or theoretical. I have skin in this game. Moreover, as a recovering codependent, I have a personal stake in identifying codependency’s theoretical, conceptual, and practical shortcomings, while, at the same time, suggesting sweeping theoretical, conceptual, and practical changes.


Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is Self-Love Recovery Institute’s CEO and primary contributor. His internationally recognized expertise includes pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. Ross’s Codependency Cure™ Treatment Program provides innovative and results-oriented treatment.

Ross’s expert educational and inspirational seminars have earned him international acclaim, including his 23 million YouTube video views and 255K subscribers. In addition to being featured on national TV and radio, his Human Magnet Syndrome books sold over 155K copies and are published in 12 languages. Ross provides expert testimony/witness services.

In 2022, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Podcast, featuring the groundbreaking information contained in his YouTube videos, along with other life-changing original content. Expect to be educated, informed, and inspired to heal from Self-Love Deficit Disorder™ (codependency) and narcissistic abuse like never before! Available now on all major podcast platforms!
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