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Projection

PROJECTION AND NARCISSITIC INJURIES

Projection is a defense mechanism that invisibly and unconsciously protects the narcissist from understanding their true shame-dominated and self-hating selves. Narcissists project their self-hatred, self-judgment, and unexpressed rage over their unmitigated child abuse onto a safer person: the offending and supposedly injuring person. Projection conveniently shifts, places, and diverts all of what the narcissist hates about themselves, which is too painful and unsafe to recollect, onto the person they misperceived as hurting them.

ABANDONING CODEPENDENTS

  From Chapter Eight: Codependency Traits and Personality Types Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  Abandoning codependents are mistakenly presumed to be...

CODEPENDENCY ADDICTION

  From Chapter Three: Chemistry, Addiction, and Limerence Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Codependency is more than a problem with the...

THE HISTORY OF CODEPENDENCY

  From Chapter Seven: The New Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC This chapter aims to ruffle a few feathers, go...

A CODEPENDENT CAN NOT BE A NARCISSIST

From Chapter Seven: The New Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  Over the last twelve years, I have been frequently asked,...

TAKING ON THE CODEPENDENCY ESTABLISHMENT

From Chapter Six: The History of Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution:Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Fortunately for science, pairing creativity with skepticism promotes discoveries while...

TALKING ABOUT A REVOLUTION

TALKING ABOUT A REVOLUTION

Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution:Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  The Outside Revolution “…..As my typing fingers translated the circuitous exploratory processes of my mind, I...

WHEN THE END GREETS THE BEGINNING

WHEN THE END GREETS THE BEGINNING

  This poem was written after terminating an abusive relationship while finally achieving a feeling of safety. Through metaphorically representing body parts and my “soul,” I tried to capture my...

PTSD

PTSD

The motivation to write this poem was to figure out why my conscious motivations to be with a new intimate partner seemed to be contradicted and sabotaged by deeper automatic...

HEAVEN

HEAVEN

In an effort to understand spirituality and true life meaning, I tend this poem at age 52 (2003). It represents my desire to reconcile my scientific and spiritual understanding of...

CODEPENDENT LOVE

CODEPENDENT LOVE

 In a moment of inspiration, I tapped into the illusionary and dishonest nature of codependent love. The pain reflected in this poem should resonate with the world of codependents as...

ON BECOMING A ROSE: THE JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE ABUNDANCE

ON BECOMING A ROSE: THE JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE ABUNDANCE

        Anaïs Nin's famous quote: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to...

SMILING SKELETONS - A POEM BY ROSS ROSENBERG

SMILING SKELETONS - A POEM BY ROSS ROSENBERG

I started this poem eight years ago after visiting my childhood home (in Mt. Prospect, IL). I had hoped that someone would be home to let me come inside to...

Toxic Empathy

Toxic Empathy

Toxic Empathy Excerpt from Upcoming“The Codependency Revolution”Released with workbook in November 2023 Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute — President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness TOXIC EMPATHY Before describing toxic empathy, its healthy form...

Common Codependency Traits

Common Codependency Traits

Common Codependency Traits Excerpt from Upcoming“The Codependency Revolution”Released with workbook on November 1, 2023 Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute — President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness COMMON CODEPENDENCY TRAITS Although codependency has been...